I know more than anyone that it’s easy to get into a rut. Adulting is hard, and it’s harder than people let on to keep your shit together. I feel like I’m someone who looks, from the outside, like I always have everything in order, but don’t let that fool you. I’m very good at masking how I really feel, so I will quite often be an absolute stress-head beneath the surface. So something I’m aiming to tackle now is just that. I want to be able to appear relaxed and composed, and actually be relaxed and composed on the inside.
There’s so much pressure on young people nowadays, should we be buying houses? Getting engaged? Travelling the world? Hustling? You can’t do it all, so we all just have to pick which feels right for ourself, and ignore what other people are doing, because that only leads to shitty comparisons. Aka. the devil and enemy of happiness. I think last year I really conquered the whole avoiding comparison thing, as I used to be terrible, which never lead to anything but feeling disappointed in myself, which none of us should be feeling. So this year I want to relax.
It sounds odd because I’ve mentioned multiple times in various posts how I want to work harder than ever from 2018, so how can I do that and relax? Well, that’s the mission I’m facing, and that’s why I need to try something new.
Focus is probably the thing I need to hone in on most. The power of gaining focus on your own life is huge. Everyone is living their own life, and everyone’s journey is so, so different, and by no means does it determine your worth if you do not reach a particular stage before someone else. You will get there when it is right for your own journey. SO the best thing I can do is focus on my day to day, and do the best I can to get the most out of my journey. I hate the word ‘journey’, it sounds so corny but I’m not going to lie, I can’t think of anything to fit that explanation better. And we all love a cheesy line now and again for self-motivation don’t we.
Self-love. I listened to a podcast recently that spoke about the difference between the way in which we speak to others, in comparison to the way we speak to ourselves. If we saw a colleague and they had no make up on, and dark circles under their eyes, would we tell them they look like death? No, we either wouldn’t mention it, or we would be compassionate and ask how they are and try and cheer them up. Why do we not treat ourselves with the same care and love? I had never though about it in that way before, and I realised how much I put myself down in that respect, without even thinking about it. I naturally see the negatives in myself, rather than trying to lift my own spirits and be positive like I would be to a friend. So that’s another thing I want to make an effort to change.
Being proactive is my next port of call. I hate to admit it but I know I’ve fallen into a pit of being reactive, rather than putting myself out there and being proactive. Let’s take this old blog as an example, I only ever work with brands that reach out to me, which isn’t the way to do it really. By making myself focus and more proactive in my approach to everything I can only progress right? I’m realising more and more the importance of pushing yourself into new perspectives and ways of life. All in the quest to live my best life hey?
Another new thing I’ve tried is this t-shirt and jacket combo. Not because of the style, but because they’re Vintage. Now I haven’t got anything against Vintage clothes and charity shop finds, I think it’s great to re-wear and re-use, and it’s so much more of a sustainable way to shop than fast fashion. BUT It’s just never been for me. I’m going to put it out there, I just don’t like the vintage smell. But I think I might be over it now after Rokit Vintage kindly sent me this vintage Adidas T-shirt, and Aquascutum ‘shacket’ (don’t you just love that word? no? just me?). I think they’re the first vintage pieces I’ve ever owned (except for bits and bobs of my mum’s that have ended up in my wardrobe..), and I have to admit that I love it! I’ve really gotten into reading Alice Catherine’s blog lately, and the way she pulls of vintage pieces is seriously inspiring me. So I’m trying something new.