It’s that time of year again… the time for giving! I mentioned in my last post about how much I love giving gifts, it really is one of my favourite parts of Christmas, if not the best bit for me. Being able to treat the people you love the most and know that you can give them something that they really wanted but would never consider treating themselves to, is so wonderful. However it also causes a real anxiety throughout the whole of November and December in that pre-Christmas build up. The secretive worry of whether you are going to be able to find everyone the best presents that you possibly can. Whether you are going to give them something they really want and love.
We all know what its’s like to have to force a smile and force out the old ‘Oh My God, I LOVE it’ line to a naff old present that has just been given to you for the sake of you having something to un-wrap. It’s why opening presents in-front of people, especially the people that bought me said presents, really stresses me out. Is anyone with me on that? I think that must be why I make presents into such a big thing in my head to make sure I get something thoughtful for everyone I buy for, because I would hate to inflict that awkwardness and fake smile onto anyone else.
But is it silly to be placing so much focus on the presents? We all try and pretend that the most important part is not the gifts, but in reality, take the gifts away, and Christmas simply wouldn’t be the same. I wrote a post last December about the pressures on spending so much money in December (you can read it here), and I guess I feel the same this year. I’ve seen a few quote’s doing the round online about embracing self care this festive season, the points of which are all punching at the same points of basically not conforming to what you think you should be doing this festive season. Hitting home that you don’t have to drink heavily to enjoy Christmas, you don’t have to stay out late and go to parties that you don’t want to go to, to enjoy Christmas. You don’t have to eat endless junk food to enjoy Christmas (unfortunately that’s one I will probably never avoid). And you don’t have to spend too much money, to enjoy Christmas.
I definitely get carried away with spending at Christmas. It’s such a social time, and you do feel like you have to constantly go out and embrace the festivities and ‘make the most of it’. And as I’ve harped on about already, I bloomin’ love buying people presents, and always want to get people the best present possible and make their eye’s light up (within reason, there’s no sports cars coming out of my bank account unfortunately). It’s not a bad trait to be thoughtful and enjoying present giving. However it’s a pressure that I put on myself, and a lot of people do the same, and is it really necessary? Are we actually in a continuous cycle of making Christmas less enjoyable than it could be if we kept ourselves financially stable and didn’t dabble towards excess?
The question here is do YOU judge your loved ones by the presents they get you? Does your love for them the same amount regardless? Exactly, so it’s just a redundant pressure we feel ultimately because of the world around us and how fickle and materialistic it can be. It’s lovely to be able to treat the people you love, but going beyond your means isn’t benefitting anyone, and your loved ones really won’t care. By the way, if your answer to the above is anything other than no, then I’m done.