‘Old beyond your years’
That is a phrase I am all too familiar with. I’ve remember hearing it since I was about 12 years old, maybe even younger. And boy do I know full well it’s a statement that is bang on the money. I’m not a party girl, and when I have gone through the phases, I spent most of my time wanting to leave to get food and go home to bed. I’m not a free spirit, I have always loved being a home and having a routine. And I have definitely never felt young, wild and free. I’ve just always loved being at home and being comfortable or doing something productive. As well as being the sensible one, I’m an introvert, so going out too much exhausts me mentally, and come on, who doesn’t just love to be in bed by eleven?
There’s no doubt that I’ve always been ‘the sensible one’ out of my friends. Throughout school, university, and still to this day. If I’m honest, there has even been times where I have felt like the mature one in my family growing up, and I’m the baby of the family. But I’ve been thinking, does being the sensible one make me boring? I don’t think it does, but I might be bias so wanted to chat.
There are so many pro’s to having an old head on my shoulders. A big one being that I’ve always been pretty good with my money. For example, I have been putting money away from a house deposit since I started working at 16, however little it might have been each month that I could afford to put away, in my head I always had that goal to work towards. That is obviously a handy trait to have to give me an advantage living in an economy where it feels like such a steep uphill climb to reach the start of the property ladder for us millennials.
I’ve also somewhat always felt like I have to have my shit together and known where I’m headed, at least for the next year or so ahead of me. Heaving a rough plan in my head has always brought a sense of content mentally. Not everything goes to plan in life, and I’m super aware of that, and don’t let myself get fooled. But as I said, I am not a free spirit and never have been, so taking each week as It comes is just not for me. However I do respect people that really do take each day as it comes, even though it gives me anxiety thinking about it.
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Nonetheless, there have definitely been downsides to being ‘the mature one’ over the years too. Don’t get me wrong, I haven’t really missed out on too much… I’ve been on girls holidays and I have had my party phases. But I say that with a pinch of salt as there have 100% been times where I have dipped out of plans or gone home early because I just want to curl up in bed and get my 8 hours without wasting the next day. And my hangover fear is far too real to the point where I never really have more than 2-3 drinks nowadays. Very much a case for many people to call me out for being boring. But each to their own, right?
The truth is that I just know my body and mind much more now than when I was younger and I am consciously respecting it. Self-care is a major buzz-phrase nowadays, and staying true to yourself is a vital part of that. I don’t feel the need to be a certain way to impress people, or even just to keep up with them. My kind of fun might differ to the wild 25 year olds you see on reality shows, and even on your instagram feed. But I relate so much more to the 20 somethings who are staying in, enjoying their home, and keeping their minds and bodies feeling fresh. I like different things, and that’s all it is. Different. Not boring.
If I’m honest, I’m happy with my life and quite like being the sensible one. What do you think?