I commented in my last post about how quickly summer seems to just be over. So long, farewell, to that golden hour light, I will miss you. But I am welcoming my autumn winter wardrobe with open arms. You’ve probably seen this insane pink jumper on my insta already as I’ve worn it about 17 times since I got it 3 weeks ago and I LOVE it.
This whole year has completely flown by hasn’t it? And that means I am fast approaching the big 2-5. Halfway to fifty. Quarter of a century. No more clinging onto those early twenties. Officially a mid-twenties gal. It’s got me thinking about not just how fast this year has gone, but how fast the past decade or so gone. My eldest niece is now 12 years old. 12! That’s is how old I was when she was born, which naturally makes me feel super old now. It’s truly bizarre and I can’t quite wrap my head around it, and my looking back on my life is just starting to feel like a strange time-warp.
Thinking about Megan being 12, I’ve been thinking of all the things I wish I could say to my younger self in the early days of high school. I could never have imagined my life would be the way it is now back then, and it’s crazy looking back and realising just how young you were, despite feeling SO grown at the time. So here I bring you the top 5 things (of a pretty long list I have to admit), that I wish I could tell my 12 year old self.
Stick with your true friends, and never try to be cool
Be yourself and stick to your genuine friendship group. I promise you will be so much happier, and your anxiety will have one less reason to grow over the coming years. Those ‘cool’ girls who’s friendship group you are desperately trying to break into will be nowhere to be seen in 10 years time. Probably not even in 5 to be completely honest. Whereas your real friends will have stuck right by your side. And I promise you by then, you really won’t think those other girls are cool anymore either.
Please don’t dye your hair
From a physical point of view, this is my most important point. You will regret it, and you will ruin your high school prom pictures. You should soon realise that there is really nothing wrong with being ginger. Despite the repetitive name calling that lead to you praying every night that your hair would turn brown by the morning (It won’t). You genuinely will come to love your hair colour as you get older. It’s part of who you are, and it’s what suits your individual look. You look more unique than most of your friends and that is something you should embrace, please stop trying to blend in with them. Looking different is not a bad thing. You will spend most of your school life trying to blend in, and the rest of your life trying to stand out. Annoying, right? On this one I think a few highlights here and there for summer are as far as I’ll ever go. I learnt the hard way.
Don’t worry about Boys
All your friends will start getting boyfriends, and I know you are left feeling deserted as there is no longer anyone to hang around with every single weekend. You also might feel like there’s something wrong with you because you’re the only one left without a boy. Oh but don’t worry because you will get a boyfriend, and he will probably cause absolute emotional and mental chaos in your life. Just what you need when you’re starting your GCSE’s, right? But don’t sweat it too much. You’ll get over it.
Please just enjoy being a teen. Enjoy who you are as you are growing up. Don’t bother trying to pursue anyone else because you feel like you should, or because your friends are doing it. You will meet someone when the time is right. Waiting it out for one great boyfriend is better than just having one (or five) for the sake of it. Boys in general are nothing special, only the right boy is. So it’s not worth focusing your energy on. Just focus on your own journey.
Trying your best does NOT make you a loser.
Your main regrets will come from the things that you didn’t give your all too. You are very aware that your fête is in your own hands, and in the most part, you can control how well you do in life. Whether that be with exams, attendance, extra-curricular bits, or even just your hobbies. You will never feel happy with yourself in anything that you do if you don’t give it 100%. And your biggest frustrations will come later in life if you realise what you want to do and you can’t do it because of where you’ve slacked in the past.
The above applies especially if you feel embarrassed to do your best out of fear of being ‘un-cool’. That is utter bull. The people that might make you feel that way are most likely jealous of your ability, and you should never let them succeed in holding you back. People always joke that the ‘popular’ kids will end up working for the ‘geeks’. And in all honesty, it’s not too far from the truth. And I know which end I’d rather be on.
Don’t be self conscious
I know, I know, this is so much easier said than done, at any point in life, but especially when you’re going through puberty. I know it can be a dark time. But seriously, your future self will forever remain jealous of how skinny you were as a teenager. Eat whatever you want and make the MOST of the fact that you can do that without getting a horrid bloat, that never really leaves. Your body is going through a lot of changes, so don’t expect to be completely comfortable straight away, it takes time to get used to not being a child anymore. As long as you respect your body, and understand how wonderful it is and the power it holds, you will be on the right tracks to being comfortable in your own skin. And that is an invaluable asset to have. Trust me.
And that’s it, my top 5! Isn’t hindsight a wonderful thing? I obviously can’t actually tell my younger self these things, but I hope some younger girls will stumble across this post one day and take something away from this post. Although I’m also a big believer in everything happens for a reason, and without my total ignorance to most of the above when I was growing up, there would be many a lesson I wouldn’t have learnt. I’ve taken a lesson from each of the above which have helped to shape me into who I am now. Every cloud, or dodgy hair colour, has a silver lining hey?
I’ve really enjoyed writing this one. I’m such a nostalgic person, I mean look at my blooming’ blog name. It’s been fun reflecting on the struggles I had and what I learnt from those years. Let me know what you would tell your younger self as I love reading your comments, and I think it helps to just put it all out there for others to learn from in future generations. I am probably going to be back with a part two one day, because this list could easily be doubled with the trials and tribulations of my teens. Oh what a time to be alive that was.